When I think about this word transformation I always visualize the process of becoming a butterfly from a Larva which consists of several stages with a patient process. But once this process is completed a beautiful creature of nature takes birth.
Folks Don’t you feel to be at the lecture on Lepidopterology ??? Haha…Rest assured I am just giving you an example.
Transformation is a process. It takes time as well as efforts. It tastes our persistence level. It has the power to change you from within.
As far as motivational or inspirational preaching is concerned, these are all easy to say but when It comes to going through this phase I agree “We all stumble” at least for a while until we are familiar with the transformational phase.
Life throws in front of us this phase several times to mould ourselves…to be the best version of ourselves…to make our lives best out of such exhaustive phases.
The way we can’t foresee the next turn on the bumpy and twisty road we can’t predict in advance when the life would ask us to sit for the exam of transformation.
Therefore, I decided to pen down some points to make this journey at ease.
Let’s talk about that now…
But before I jump on the points I give you a secret trick here.
This trick is called “BAPI”
This trick I found on my own to tackle with transformation in my life which I found very effective. (I am not appreciating it because I found it or to take the credit for it…LOL!!!…It’s really very effective)
When you are on the verge of the Transformation phase due to any reason…Just Do this…
Breath (Relax)…Accept (Mend with reality)…Plan (Pen down your thoughts)…Implement (Adopt the best possible positive and optimistic outlook in the given situation)
Now I dive a bit deep to bring forward a few more points to sail through…
DON’T ENTERTAIN THOUGHTS ABOUT “WOULD HAVE BEEN”…
Generally, we all start thinking about how the journey was beautiful so far instead of thinking about how to make further journey beautiful. We get trapped in the loop of “would have been thoughts”.
If this had not happened I would have been happier than I am now, If I had not chosen that person I would have been satisfied with my life by now.
Frankly, It does not make any sense once a particular thing has happened to think about this toxic loop which further demotivates our morale.
Whatsoever was bound to happen that happened. Accept it wholeheartedly.
WRITE DOWN MENTAL CHAOS…
Putting your thoughts on the piece of paper releases half of your negative thoughts.
How can you find a path when the road in front of you is all filled up with negative chunks???
Without clarity in thoughts and a bit of optimism, you can not ever find a midway or solution to tackle the process.
Writing is the best way to put together positive things that you can take the support of and keep aside trash of negative things. Go get a crumpled paper to leave all that chaos on it. (I usually find crumpled stuff to write on around me always…LOL!!)
TRUST THE PROCESS…
Any process in this world is not as easy as we want it to be. Tougher the process better its outcomes.
Be consistent in your efforts to be positive during the process. It is said, “Enjoy the Journey and Trust the Destination”.
Hence, Roll up your sleeves for giving your best possible hard work and patience. Best luck!!!
POSITIVES ACCOMPANIES NEGATIVES…
Have you ever observed???
When something adverse happens to you there is at least a thing in favor of you.
Find out what best you can make out of the circumstances you are in. Accept negatives gracefully. This is the spirit to always find a ray of hope to manifest positive results out of a negative trap. There is always “a Blessing in Disguise”.
Count those blessings.
CLOSE THE DOOR FOR SYMPATHY…
When you are in this toughest phase you feel sad,
your professional outcomes result in unproductivity,
you lose appetite,
you isolate yourself from the world,
you don’t feel doing anything due to a lack of enthusiasm and energy,
you don’t get good sleep,
you feel collapsed,
you feel shattered,
you feel devastated,
you feel emotionally and mentally drained.
Due to all these, people around you (Who never wish anything good for you) make you a soft target by showing sympathy.
They let you feel more devastating than you actually feel. These people make the situation worst than it is. They never show you the brighter side of the situation but let you feel you have a bit of bad luck to have this phase.
Stay away from such people by closing the door for unwanted sympathy show. At the same time open the door for those who stand by your side through thick and thin.
Most importantly, DO NOT JUDGE YOURSELF BE BEING SELF CRITICAL ABOUT HOW YOU ARE DURING THIS PROCESS. Because YOU ARE JUDGING YOURSELF ON THE BASIS OF NOT HOW YOU ARE IN REALITY BUT ON THE BASIS OF YOUR NOTIONAL PERSONALITY WHICH HAS TAKEN BIRTH ONLY TILL THE PROCESS OF TRANSFORMATION.
DON’T BE HARD ON YOURSELF.
TAKE YOUR OWN TIME. (HEALING TAKES TIME) 🙂
CHANGE THE MINDSET…
This point correlates to the 2nd point because you will find the answer to what should be your mindset henceforth once you write down how you feel about the process.
Post transformation or during the process as well we can not complete the remaining journey with the same attitude and mindset we had earlier.
That’s why It is necessary to introspect the event that led you to transform your life to search for a brand new attitude and mindset.
Be Felixible & Adaptable…
ENJOY AND SMILE…
Enjoy the process and cherish it with a smiling face.
Everyone looks pretty, beautiful, handsome when they smile. A smile can not be ugly ever. (Can’t believe this??? Look once in the mirror with a smile on your face)
Trust the Process…
BE A ROLE MODEL OF INSPIRATION…
People love to know the life of strugglers to seek motivation in their own lives.
Be that one example for them.
Your grace and spirit during the stormy phase decide how admirable you are.
Just give a chance to others for appreciating you for being a warrior by tackling with transformation.
COMPARISON IS VENOM…
We all are not in the same boat.
We all are neither on the same page in life.
It may happen when you are under transformation lesson people might seem you luckier, happier than you are. But you forget to pay attention to the fact that others might have already gone through it or they are yet to.
Comparison is sensible when two people are on the same page.
I always say Compare yourself with your past you to see how much progress you have made.
Your competition shall be with you only. Try to be a better person than who you were yesterday…
“ME INSIDE OF ME IS THE ME I WILL BE”.
Resisting any kind of change is as equivalent to resisting your self-growth. (I have already written about this…but just a quick reminder) 😉
Flexibility over rigidity always ensures your personal progress.
Transformations are there to change who you are to make you the person who you are supposed to be.
The best lessons of life are learned during this tough time provided you are adaptable to the change.
In a nutshell,
If you keep in mind this Mantra, You would never ever resist the process of transformation.
“ONLY CHANGE IS THE CONSTANT THING”
After all, It is a new inning for you to cherish.
It is a fact that we have to mould ourselves several times in life according to the situation.
The more we are acceptable towards this the better process It becomes for you to be headstrong through the deadliest storms of life.
I hope this article would be helpful for you.
I have articulated the whole article after analyzing my life and people’s lives during transformation, to sum up with these points.
I wish this article will be helpful to you to put together all odds to transform them into a beautiful future for yourself.
Let’s JUMP-START a new inning of life with more Positivity and Strength… 🙂
Before Wrapping Up I would like to mention a fantastic quote from Steve Jobs…
Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
(These words explain everything) 🙂
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